Enneagram 2 Helper core desire to feel appreciated and love, hands holding heart

 Overview

General Archetypal Names: Helper, Caretaker, Giver, Lover (Watch a podcast discussion on the names and theme of Type 2 here)

Core Motivational Theme: Love/Care, Appreciation/Acknowledgment

Core Fear: being unlovable, unwanted, unappreciated, unacknowledged, unworthy, undesirable, not good enough in the context of close personal relationship (ie partner/child/parent)

Core Desire: to be love/loving; to feel loved/lovable, wanted, appreciated, worthy of love, good enough in the context of close personal relationship

Center of Intelligence: heart/feeling

Connecting Points: 4 (heart), 8 (gut/instinctive)

Archetypal Expressions

These archetypes encapsulate the core fears/desires, vices/virtues, life lessons, and character arcs associated with point 2 on the Enneagram.

Sexy woman with black heart chaining partner to chair. Toxic Femininity. Enneagram 2 tarot archetype, Seductive Servant.

No one could love me for who I am so I must serve them to be worthy of their love. If they don’t appreciate my sacrifices I have the right to do whatever I want to get my needs met.

Traditional housewife serving unattentive, breadwinner husband. Enneagram 2 tarot archetype, Codependent Caretaker.

I don’t know how I would live or what I would do with myself if I didn’t have others to care for. They need me to attend to their needs; it’s selfish to attend to my own.

Hindu masculine feminie compassion god archetype with pure heart. Enneagram enlightened, Unconditionally Loving Household.

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Integration and Disintegration / Connecting Points

2 integration 4: self-reflection, ability to be alone, emotional responsibility, healing. Excess sympathy, over-mothering
2 disintegration 8: giving to get, expectation, resentment, control. Boundaries, self-respect, interdependence, assertiveness

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