Talkin’ Truth w/ an Enneagram 6: Death, Family, Work, Relationships, Religion
From love of family and community, to calculated risks, to the fear of death; it’s all here in this deep dive conversation with my friend, bandmate, and Enneagram 6 Chris.
We delve into how the Enneagram has helped him grow, exploring a wide variety of life domains, each revealing fascinating ways that the Enneagram manifests in Chris’s life.
Chris talks about the give and take of co-managing a semi-professional band with an Enneagram 8, his career trajectory from successful corporate salesman to collectible entrepreneur, and overcoming fear in relationships. Chris opens up about the profound impact of his father and how he has coped with his loss.
Our discussion extends to religion and spirituality, shedding light on the deep fear of non-existence at the core of an Enneagram 6. We touch on the prevalence of 6s in religious communities and the transformative power of music and community in fostering profound spiritual connections.
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1: The Enneagram: Typing, Strengths, Weaknesses
I don’t like that. Yeah that’s accurate, for sure, but I don’t like that … I’m gonna be stronger and I’m gonna kind of do what I can to move past those weaknesses, or at least minimize them, to really live a better life.
- “Here’s the things I want to look at, like the loyalty part of the six, and the things I didn’t want to look at, like you know a lot of the anxiety …looking the worst case scenario in a certain situation..I’m like, wow, this really matches up”
2: Experiential Learning: The Enneagram and Band Dynamics
My role in the band was, what I felt, simply a cheerleader. Say there was a disagreement, say there was an issue, I took a lot of pride in being that person that said, “Hey guys, we got this. Let’s move forward, be as positive as possible.”
3: Support, Guidance, and Losing a Parent
I realize how much of a crutch, in good ways and bad ways that he was to me. Every single thing, I’d pick up the phone and call no matter what…and having that inclination and then having it not be available, it’s like this sinking feeling I can’t really describe.
4: Work and Calculated Risks: From Corporate Salesman to Entrepreneur
Part of the reason that I know I stuck with that job for so long, I was like “this is stable.” …If there’s something you love and it’s a calculated risk, for me I realized that’s something I should always do.
5: Dating and Relationships
Normally your Jedi mind tricks don’t work on me. The difference is when I’m in a relationship, I’m all in. That means I trust, I’m vulnerable. I used to think “oh that makes me weak”, now here’s the thing; I realize as I get older that makes me strong,to be able to do that, and some people will take advantage of that…
6: Religion and Spirituality
I didn’t realize how lost I was…
- I remember being a kid and panicking, you know that fear of death, “What if we just become nothing?” That thought of becoming nothing, that’s panicking.”
- “It’s a connection you feel that you have with that person, and you have with God, together. It’s kind of an indescribable feeling. I don’t want to say a high or like a euphoria, it’s just like a spiritual Nirvana that’s really difficult to explain besides just saying it simply like that.”